Some people take no interest in what other people think or feel ... - Dhamma by Ajahn Jayasāro
Some people take no interest in what other people think or feel. They are very confident. They think they are smart. They do what they want to do and refuse to take any responsibility for the suffering they cause other people. They think they are winners and everyone else are losers. Other people care too much about what other people think or feel. They worry all the time about how they are being judged for their actions. They want everyone to like them. Sometimes they do things they know are wrong because they crave the praise of others and fear criticism. The first group of people take themselves as refuge. The second group take other people as refuge. These refuges are narrow, foolish and unsafe. The Buddha taught us to take the Dhamma as our refuge. This means basing our life on generosity, precepts and inner cultivation.
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